Isolationism on College Campuses

The best paragraph I've read in a few weeks comes from the introduction of Paul Loeb's Soul of a Citizen.

The dream of sanctuary is an illusion. It erodes our souls by eroding our sense of larger connection, whether to our fellow human beings or to that force that many of us call God. The walls we're building around ourselves, around those closest to us, and ultimately around our hearts may provide a temporary feeling of security. But they can't prevent the world from affecting us. Quite the opposite. The more we construct such barriers, the more private life, for most of us, will grow steadily more insecure. (pg. 7)

In applying Loeb's writing to my experience on a college campus, the first thing I think of is walking past those students who simply can't walk on campus without earphones on or a cell phone held to their ear. My sightings of these students have skyrocketed over the past three years, with iPods commonplace and cell phones becoming a staple. Each time I see a student say goodbye to a group of friends and then pull out a cell phone to call someone else, I wonder about the connection between this behavior and self-confidence.

The idea of a "larger connection," as Loeb labels it, seems lost on many of today's college students. Many students would seemingly rather keep listening to their music than say thank you to those holding a door open for them. It seems like they'd do anything possible to avoid having to decide whether or not to make eye contact with a stranger and utter one syllable. So what do they do? Whip out the cell phone to talk to someone that's within their "walls."

We've accomplished quite a bit last year, speaking in terms of civic engagement. College students showed an incredible amount of enthusiasm all over the country for the political process, and service-learning is playing a larger role in education across the nation. But perhaps we're looking too much at the forest instead of zeroing in on the trees.

I've resisted the notion that just because youth today engage in activism online and plan it online, the Millennial brand of activism is of a diminished quality. However, I do think that youth today can improve their efforts to create positive change by challenging themselves to tear down some of those walls so they can be expanded. A face-to-face interaction with a stranger isn't going to lead to a scolding anymore like it might if we Millennials were still trapped in your childhood. Loeb gets it right — the more we erect walls, the more insecure we get; the less walls we have surrounding us, the more confident we are.

  • In my sixth year of uni

    Love this post – so true. I certainly struggle with being alone in a crowd, and am not comfortable with my social abilities when encountering strangers on the street of a big city. I’m in a small town now, and it’s different – there are social norms to follow. If you want people not to shut themselves away, you must help them be confident that they can deal with the emotional threats that lowering these walls poses.

  • In my sixth year of uni

    Love this post – so true. I certainly struggle with being alone in a crowd, and am not comfortable with my social abilities when encountering strangers on the street of a big city. I'm in a small town now, and it's different – there are social norms to follow. If you want people not to shut themselves away, you must help them be confident that they can deal with the emotional threats that lowering these walls poses.

  • http://profile.typepad.com/1237948085s14722 Craig Berger

    I think we need more forums on campus on civility. Rarely do we have a place for this kind of a dialogue on college campuses, and in order to help students develop that confidence to confront those emotional threats of lowering the walls, I think we need those discussions.
    Thanks for your comment!

  • http://profile.typepad.com/1237948085s14722 Craig Berger

    I think we need more forums on campus on civility. Rarely do we have a place for this kind of a dialogue on college campuses, and in order to help students develop that confidence to confront those emotional threats of lowering the walls, I think we need those discussions.
    Thanks for your comment!

  • http://profile.typepad.com/1237213122s9191 Sean Cook

    Craig, great post. Spring and Summer end up being a series of ongoing experiments in social interaction for me. I get out and walk across campus more and as I do, I often try to say hello to people passing in the other direction. It’s amazing to me how many (including people who I know) often have a cell phone or ipod pretty much glued to their ears, and have their heads down, so as not to have to notice others walking by. And when I overhear some of the passing conversations, they are usually talking with their Mom or Dad about daily minutia. It seems that if we could get them to just twitter that stuff and actually talk to people around them, it would be a good thing for their generation.

  • http://profile.typepad.com/1237213122s9191 Sean Cook

    Craig, great post. Spring and Summer end up being a series of ongoing experiments in social interaction for me. I get out and walk across campus more and as I do, I often try to say hello to people passing in the other direction. It's amazing to me how many (including people who I know) often have a cell phone or ipod pretty much glued to their ears, and have their heads down, so as not to have to notice others walking by. And when I overhear some of the passing conversations, they are usually talking with their Mom or Dad about daily minutia. It seems that if we could get them to just twitter that stuff and actually talk to people around them, it would be a good thing for their generation.

  • http://profile.typepad.com/1237948085s14722 Craig Berger

    Thanks for the comment Sean!
    Your examples are exactly what I was referring to in my post. Even though I know Millennials have a tendency of being close with their parents, the intensity and constant communication within these relationships still surprises me.
    Good luck in your upcoming social experiments!

  • http://profile.typepad.com/1237948085s14722 Craig Berger

    Thanks for the comment Sean!
    Your examples are exactly what I was referring to in my post. Even though I know Millennials have a tendency of being close with their parents, the intensity and constant communication within these relationships still surprises me.
    Good luck in your upcoming social experiments!

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